Parenting Errors

Everyone who has been a parent—biological, foster, adoptive, step, grandparents—has made some type of parenting error at one or numerous times during our parental regime.

Parenting Errors is designed to help us solve such errors, and it is never too late to do so.

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KTLA Morning News interview with Dr. Alvy about the Parenting Errors book.

      Radio Interview with Dr. Alvy discussing Parenting Errors book


“Clearly, the job of parenting itself is an enormously difficult one, and it is a job that is embedded in a variety of other relationships and societal demands.”

Alvy, a trained clinical child psychologist, provides a new guideline on the common errors made by new and seasoned parents alike. His primary focus here is on ineffective parenting, which he terms “multiyear parenting errors,” of which a multiyear approach affects the lifetime of a child into adulthood. He advocates the use of authoritative parenting, or “multiyear positive parenting style,” to avoid the potential negative impacts. He contrasts the eight error-prone parenting styles with the positive solutions, as well as the AAR approach: Admit, Apologize, Restitution. Alvy even addresses the different parenting styles found in various cultures and tailors solutions to fit within the parameters of those specific cultures.

This is a simple, straightforward, and useful resource for anyone who is a parent today. Alvy highlights the strengths and weaknesses of parents while helping them to become more protective parents, both physically and psychologically. The multiyear positive parenting is a way to ensure this as each child grows to model the behaviors of parents and thenceforth become healthy members of the community. The book includes exercises and assignments one can do within the book if so desired along with additional resources and programs parents may complete with their families. He even makes himself directly available for support through email contact, a nice touch that demonstrates his accessibility and sincerity in helping parents succeed. This book is an easy-to-read approach to universal parenting mistakes and from which almost anyone can benefit to become better adults. It presents a standard for future generations to model.

Reviewed by: Dylan Ward
US Review

“Finally, a Sensible Parenting Book!

Here is a book that is as well written as it is useful. Reading this book was remarkably illuminating and made me assess my own parenting as well as my relationship with my children.

It is written in a positive, reasonable style without judgement and with compassion for all involved in the family. I highly recommend the book.”
-Brad Wilhelm


Parenting Errors: How to Solve Them is a perceptive and helpful guide to assist parents and caregivers by child psychologist Dr. Kerby T. Alvy, offering solutions for harried parents to calmly deal with the unpredictable behaviors of their children.

Parenting Errors details the mistakes parents often make when raising children. Alvynotes how parents should not be too lenient nor too authoritative with kids to make the most impact. Alvy advocates when parents make mistakes, they should take action to correct those actions in a productive way. Parenting Errors has useful steps that parents can take; such as to apologizing to children when they’re wrong. He also advocates progressive parenting tips such as talking to a child to resolve a conflict together. Alvy’s advice is common sense advice any wise parent should have no problem in assimilating. He adds statements of positive reinforcement which parents can recite to their children in frequent situations, such as during a child’s temper tantrums. Parents can easily apply the clearly written advice, step-by-step to any tough parenting situation. Though Parenting Errors has script-like sentences parents can literally recite to kids, the book also addresses special parenting circumstances. In a refreshing change from other parental advice books, Alvy addresses the different challenges faced by parents of color and how they were raised with more authoritarian parenting with corporal punishment. He wants minority parents to break the cycle of harsh parenting and embrace more non-violent resolutions to correct a child’s misbehavior. He delves into the complicated history of African-American parenting since slavery with great sensitivity. Despite the past, Alvy advocates that African-American parents counteract the ugly legacy of corporal punishment in parenting dating back to slavery with positive affirmations to their children about Black pride.

Parenting Errors would be best for parents and caregivers who are dealing with troublesome toddlers or rebellious teenagers. Fans of modern parenting advice books such as The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary would love Alvy’s expertise as well. Even old-school parents who want to maintain control over their children will like the advice Alvy dispenses about how to admit their parenting mistakes to their kids while still exercising parental authority.

Parents who want to openly communicate with their kids will also appreciate the advice of Parenting Errors and can share the text with other parents in book clubs. This book would make a perfect gift for parents-to-be as well as current parents who may need a bit of extra guidance. Additionally, Alvy’s book would be great for child psychologists who want to study the best current psychological methods to help parents and children. Parenting Errors: How To Fix Them is an insightful text that will help parents overcome mistakes to become the best parents they can be, resulting in having the best children they can have also.

Reviewed by: Ella Vincent
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Parenting Errors Video Trailer

KTLA Morning News interview with Dr. Alvy discussing his Parenting Errors

Parenting Errors